I learned recently about the latest trend that has taken over social media and dating apps in particular - foodie calls. Basically, good looking ladies will seek out lonely and financially successful guys on dating apps/websites and pretend to be attracted to them in order to go out to fancy (or not so fancy) restaurants. After they eat and the bill is covered, they leave and the guy does not ever hear from them again.
On the radio the other day, this girl called in and with so much pride told the entire GTA that when she lived in LA, she used to survive off this practice. She said, she used to bring a friend with her to those dates! WHAT?
Am I the only one who is repulsed by this kind of behaviour? What pushes these girls to basically scam desperate men? Have things really turned out so bad for us, millennials, that we do something like this?
Forget that this is dishonest and unfair to the other person, it is an epic waste of time to spend a meal with someone you genuinely do not find interesting or attractive. Watching them try to impress you when you know that you will never call them again is just cruel.
So back to my question. Are things really that bad financially for young women that they need to seek out this type of charity to eat?! Is there no self respect left? Do we not know how to purchase some lettuce and make a salad at home?
These ladies find all kinds of excuses for this behaviour all the way down to the gender salary gap. That is the lamest excuse I have ever heard! As someone who did a Masters Degree in Human Resources, I can absolutely assure you that the wage gap only matters if both individuals are employed in the same job. It is very rare that you will go on tinder and find a 'date' who not only holds the same position as you, but also performs exactly the same tasks at work and has the same level of previous work experience, etc as you.
Honey, if you work retail and he is the CEO of a bank (hypothetically, because I think that a CEO of a bank would know better than to be on tinder), that is not a wage gap. That is career path differences with one job paying more than another. Scamming guys to pay for your meal is not a way to equalize this pseudo "wage gap".
This kind of behaviour is what gives millennials such a bad rep. The desire to live lavishly, beyond your means and willingness to act dishonesty to get there. A complete lack of any consideration for another person or any degree of maturity. Using people to make up for poor money management skills.
And lastly, and what I think annoys me the most - complete arrogance thinking that this guy is supposed to pay for your time and conversation. What? Why don't you pay for his time and conversation and cover the bill for a change.
It seems to be that these millennial woman are feminists only when it is convenient. Sure, we can do all the jobs that men do. Sure we need to be treated equally, but when it comes to paying the bill for food we are poor little hungry chickens that need to be taken pity on and taken care off because there is a wage gap and we can't afford it. We forgot our wallet at home. Sorry.